One of the many things I have to admit to myself over the course of the four and a half years I have lived in Ukraine is that I didn’t know how to treat a lady before moving to Ukraine. I knew how to be a great salesman, and I knew how to set boundaries and limits inside of a relationship, either with a family member, or a customer or client. However, I was unaware of how a lack of boundaries and limits can cause your significant other (Ukrainian women) to not respect you.
And, I had not idea just how important it was for a Ukrainian woman to respect her man. In the US culture, women have been taught from childhood, over the past 45 years that they have equal rights to men. They have been taught over the past 35 years that they do not have to put with a man physically or emotionally abusing them. They have been taught over the past 30 years that they do not have to tolerate a man sexually harassing them. These are all positive things, as I believe the worst thing a man can do is hit a woman or hurt a child.
That brings us to the point. US men have come to the point of being to scared of offending a woman, or losing their job due to sexual harassment, that they have lost their ability to be a strong, well-respected man. A man is not supposed to discipline his children through a spanking on the behind any more. I have no trouble with using fear or the threat of physical violence on a young child, as long as it is not a commonly used tool. Once, twice, three times over the child’s childhood and it is effective. More than that, and it becomes a pattern with the opposite effect.
US men come to Ukraine thinking that Ukrainian women have the same behavior patterns as their American counterparts. But, that is not true. Sure, there are Ukrainian men who will allow the Ukrainian girl or woman to be the boss of that relationship, but it is not the norm, nor is it the general consensus. So, the general attitude of the public, or of this culture is one of the man being the head, or center piece of the marriage and household, while the Ukrainian woman is the one who is behind the man, holding it all together.
American men need to learn how to stand up for what they want, and what they think they deserve. It is not bad to tell a woman “no!” In fact, it is highly recommended. It is simple, reverse psychology. When you take something away from a person, that person wants it more. Ukrainian girls are the same. Especially the younger ones. But, most people in the Ukrainian culture are not reading books, trying to improve themselves and their relationships. So, just some simple psychological tools can help you to achieve your goal of having a Ukrainian girl fall in love with you.